Teen weighs impact of joining school gay-straight alliance

Abigale Van Buren

Dear Abby


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Dear Abby • I’m 14, starting my freshman year in high school and, of course, will be joining lots of clubs to prepare for college.

My best friend is gay, and when I asked her if she wanted to join any clubs together, she suggested the Gay-Straight Alliance club. As a saved Christian, I am unsure how to answer.

I believe Christians should treat homosexuals with kindness and respect. I believe also in same-sex marriage because of the legal protection it gives a couple. I respect my friend’s decision, and I’m happy she’s happy with her life. My family doesn’t know how to respond either, though they have similar beliefs.

I am afraid if my church found out, they would dislike me for joining, as well as question where I really stand as a Christian. Can you help? — CAUGHT IN THE MIDDLE IN KENTUCKY

Dear Caught • I, too, believe that Christians (and people of all faiths) should treat each other with kindness and respect, regardless of their sexual orientation. But somewhere you got the impression that sexual orientation is a choice. It isn’t. Your friend’s orientation was determined before she was born, just as yours was.

Wanting to support your friend by joining a Gay-Straight Alliance is a commendable thing to do, and it follows the Golden Rule.

Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Write Dear Abby at or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, Calif. 90069.

Publishers note: Obviously, Dear Abby, under her pen name, Jeanne Phillips, sees herself as one to indoctrinate her readers to her own moral or amoral standards than a simple advice columnist.  Unfortunately, she is basing her theories on the subject of homosexuality on the pseudo-scientific theories that she has learned from the American Psychiatric and American Medical Associations rather than other scientists that have far greater credentials than those that these groups have depended on.  And as for this individual who declares themselves as a “saved Christian”, as if there were any other kind, they should take the advice of David rather than Abby when he said to walk not in the “counsel of the ungodly” (Ps. 1:1 (a).  And Abby and her inquirer should also seek the inspired advice of Paul the Apostle who instructed Timothy with these words, O Timothy, keep that which is committed to thy trust, avoiding profane and vain babblings, and oppositions of science falsely so called Which some professing have erred concerning the faith. Grace be with thee. Amen. (1 Tim. 6:20,21).

Whoever this, “saved Christian” is, should also consider the scripture that says, Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness? 

And what concord hath Christ with Belial? or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel? (2 Cor. 6:14-15).


But the greatest sin lies with the spiritual leadership of this fourteen-year old, be it parents or Pastor or both.  Surely this is what the Lord Jesus meant when He said, “Can the blind lead the blind? Shall they not both fall into the ditch?”


This individual who doesn’t say whether male or female says that they believe in marriage because of the, “legal protection it gives a couple.”  How sad, Christian believers need to make decisions based on the Word of God, not on the protection of Caesar’s laws.  Any arguments that we try to give to sodomites to get them to change their lifestyle will be like, spitting in the ocean, when it comes to putting out the fire as they burn in their lust toward each other (Rom. 1:27).  The only one who can put that fire out is the Holy Spirit through the firey preaching of the gospel of Christ who has the power of God to quench the fire of lust that burns in the flesh that will put out the flames of a burning hell for those that commit this wicked, vile sin and every other sin that is rebellion against the law Word of God.


Rom 6:23  For the wages of sin is death; but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.


Rom 10:9  That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved. 

10  For with the heart man believeth unto righteousness; and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation.


Rom 10:13  For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.

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